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I have a dilemma and could you some advice. 2 of my closest friends offered to host an engagement party for me and my fiance. They asked me to provide a guest list of 15-20 people. I am finding this number a little hard to meet between both my and my fiance's friends and family. Ideally the guest list would have been closer to 30-35. Because of this I offered to contribute or have my mother contribute but my friends rejected this idea and insisted it is their party they are throwing for us. Bear in mind the party is being hosted for a 2 hr. stretch at a bar, one of our favorite neighborhood hangouts. We are all relatively successful and in our mid to late 30's. Do we/can we ask those friends who did not make the guest list to meet up with us afterwards? If so, how do I word this to avoid any hurt feelings to either the friends hosting the party, or the friends who didn't make the invite to the party my friends are throwing. I am probably making more of this than needs to be, but what is supposed to be a happy occasion, is making me feel a bit stressed. I would also like to add that my fiance and I are very grateful that my friends want to do this for us.

-- Contributed by: people pleaser

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Thank you for your comment. Your friends are making a very kind gesture, however I do see the issue that you are facing. They are obviously very good and close friends and as such I am sure that if you explain to them the situation then they will work with you to find a solution that is best all round. Another solution would be to have a party for friends that is hosted by your friends and a separate party for family which you and your fiance could host. Good luck with your dilemma - I am sure it will all work out and you will have a fabulous time.

-- Contributed by: K Pullen

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I have a dilemma and could you some advice. 2 of my closest friends offered to host an engagement party for me and my fiance. They asked me to provide a guest list of 15-20 people. I am finding this number a little hard to meet between both my and my fiance's friends and family. Ideally the guest list would have been closer to 30-35. Because of this I offered to contribute or have my mother contribute but my friends rejected this idea and insisted it is their party they are throwing for us. Bear in mind the party is being hosted for a 2 hr. stretch at a bar, one of our favorite neighborhood hangouts. We are all relatively successful and in our mid to late 30's. Do we/can we ask those friends who did not make the guest list to meet up with us afterwards? If so, how do I word this to avoid any hurt feelings to either the friends hosting the party, or the friends who didn't make the invite to the party my friends are throwing. I am probably making more of this than needs to be, but what is supposed to be a happy occasion, is making me feel a bit stressed. I would also like to add that my fiance and I are very grateful that my friends want to do this for us.

-- Contributed by: people pleaser

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Hi Debbie, thank you for your question. It is very much a personal choice. There is generally no expectation for a gift to be given at a party, however it might be best to check with the couple and ensure that they have no special requests for their party.

-- Contributed by: K Pullen

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What should the parents of the groom to be bring if anything?

-- Contributed by: debbie e
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